#Selfies, Shame & Self-Love
I felt so ashamed of myself, for just existing in the body that I had, in the way that I was and tried my hardest to hide it. We have a choice, in the ways that we raise our children—to not tell them that their bodies are the problem. People my be doing all sorts of violent things and they might be rationalizing that someone’s body is the problem. Everyone makes a choice. When you make a choice to inflict violence, that belongs to you. That doesn’t belong to anybody else. And taking pictures choosing to be seen, choosing to be visible for me is an important part of my process.
I think that so much of what we do is seek out the validation we didn’t have as children, as young people, for most of our lives.
For most of my life, I was in places where all of the things I was were not valuable. And they were seen as a constant liability and I was trying to hide myself away.
And that’s bullshit. And that’s wrong.
We all deserve to be visible. We all deserve to be seen in a ways that we wanna be. No one wants to be seen in the exact same way and no one should be forced to be. We all deserve to be in control of our image.
We all deserve to have people tell us that we’re valuable and important.